Grief, at whatever pace it comes
Grief does not move through tidy stages, and it does not finish on the schedule other people expect.
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What this is about
It arrives in waves with long flat stretches between them, it attaches to objects and dates and smells, and it can show up as irritability or exhaustion rather than sadness. Grief for a person who was difficult is harder, not easier. Grief that could not be shown at the time, because you were the one holding everyone else together, tends to wait.
What work here looks like
There is nothing to fix here and no version of this you are doing wrong. Therapy is somewhere to put it down for an hour, with someone who will not rush you towards acceptance.
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Where this often overlaps.
