Emotionally Focused Therapy
EFT works on the cycle a couple gets stuck in, rather than on who was right about the dishes.
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What this is about
Most recurring fights are not about their content. Underneath, one person is protesting a loss of connection and the other is trying to stop making things worse, and each move confirms the other person's fear. EFT slows that cycle down until both people can see it as something happening to them jointly, and then works on the reaching and responding that the cycle has been blocking.
What work here looks like
It has strong evidence with couples and is also used individually. It asks both people to be willing to look at their own part, which is why it is not the right first step where there is coercion, abuse or violence in a relationship.
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Where this often overlaps.
